Author: Mies

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Just too little Love

The world around us feels harsher and colder than ever. I don’t remember knowing any divorced couples when I was around my children’s age…. they, on the other hand, face the daily reality of nearly 1 in 2 broken homes.

Why is that? What is going on with us? Why is there so much anger and worldwide dissatisfaction?
Here’s my take on it: 
There’s just too little love going ’round
We want love, we expect love, and we yearnfor love, yet we are not prepared to give love unless we receivelove first.
Pretty petty, very silly and so unlike what love’s about.
The truth is, if we’d all love a little more abundantly, then so many of us would feel its instant reach. It would encourage more patience and understanding. It would make the world we live in a softer, safer and much warmer place…surely! 
The thing is, with love… even if it’s just a simple act of friendship, one lovely thing leads to another, and with this a chain reaction is brought on, an opposite chain reaction to the one so many of us seem to be stuck in nowadays!
We put too much value into things that will never bring us happiness. It’s like stuffing ourselves with junk food, a cheap and instant solution to hunger pangs, yet always leaving us dissatisfied. Thus polluting our being. We need to stick to wholesome nourishment of body and soul to stop the cravings that cause our constant disgruntlement.
Too many of us find fault in what others do or do not do, but do we ever think to look at ourselves before lashing out our opinions at others? We’re so used to living in this fast and (throwaway) consumer society, that once our need for something or someone is over, we move on, regardless of the consequences. In fact, the consequences no longer even seem to matter in the great scheme of things, EXCEPT that…. THAT is the exact reason so many of us are no longer able to give a little love, because we think it doesn’t matter. Pain and hurt often destroy the good intentions of an otherwise thrivingly loving heart. People struggle to trust again, and fight inner battles to recover from their loss of self (worth). I see it happening around me, and fear that what is left of the kindhearted spirits is rapidly being absorbed by ‘Pac-Man-like’ society destructive ideals, such as greed, ego, pain, anger, jealousy and revenge. Once gobbled up, there’s no telling whether you’ll ever make it out, let alone be able to show kindness or love again.
So I think it’s time to quit the selfish ‘me’, ‘me’, ‘me’ mode we seem to have programmed ourselves into and start thinking about ‘how we can each contribute a little love into this world’. 
Dare to smile at a stranger to wish them a good day, let a pedestrian cross the road although you may be in a hurry, help a friend out even though you’re busy, give someone a cuddle just because you know how great it feels to get one, or end a family feud as life is far too short for anger and watch the magic happen….
cause, love is, free yet fundamental and thrives on simple acts of kindness… it will naturally flourish and sow its seeds if you let it.


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Life of Riches…(Het Leven in het Reservaat)

Have you ever noticed that some people feel so superior to others that no matter who they meet, (unless you’re loaded and of ‘capital-interest’ of course) they instantly forget who you are?! I seem to bump into quite a few of these men (mainly). A while back whilst invited to attend THE party of the year in this glorified circus we live in, I was seated next to a man that I had met on many other occasions. As everyone was looking for their seats amongst the four lengthy and beautifully decorated table rows, he pulled up right next to me, turned towards me and introduced himself – for the 13th time!!

To be quite frank, I don’t change much, hardly yo-yo weight wise and have an easy face to remember. So having to introduce myself for the so-many’eth-time, kind of pissed me off. And so, I said, in my most polite ‘gritting-my-teeth-but-aiming-to-be-friendly-voice’ possible, “we’ve met before, haven’t we?’ He gave me his well rehearsed painfully apologetic smile and arrogantly replied, “oh yes, now I see” (Excuse me, but were your eyes closed when we shook hands ??? All those 13 times ???). 
What is it with this type of arrogance? Does he really think that the vagina he came out of was better than the one I came out of ? Was he breastfed and therefore better milked than the rest of us? Or did his family buy their food at specialist ‘well-bre(a)d’ supermarkets? 
Anyway, after that short and awful intro, he sat down, and of course….turned his back to me during the entire dinner. 
What a blessing !!! His rudeness turned out to be his most honourable deed of the night.
It makes you think though….why do people consider themselves to be better than others, is ‘betterness‘ determined by intelligence or money? Does a big brain or wallet guarantee a wealthier spirit? Of course NOT, we all know that, yet why do some insist that they are and always will be superior to others?
When we reach the end of our time here, we all die, no one is exempted from that. We all stop breathing, all our hearts stop and we all end up either incinerated, buried, or scattered over fields or ponds. But guess what….it’s after that….after death that the crucial truth arises….it’s in how you are remembered, in what you leave in people’s hearts, and how much love you left behind. That is what you truly were, and in which greatness you may one day be remembered.
So, if you’re one of those arrogant pricks that thinks the world revolves around you, take a look in the mirror every morning please and see who’s staring back at you, for one day you might not even recognise yourself and won’t even know who you’ve turned into. Those that once meant something, will easily forget you, because what you thought was so important, will only leave behind and empty ‘air‘ of space.
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‘The Paradox of Life’ – Quote

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but
shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more,
but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and
smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees
but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more
problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little,
drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too
little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our
possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and
hate too often.
We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to
life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but
have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer
space but not inner space.
We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air,
but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.
We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less.
We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold
more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less
and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small
character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of
two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.
These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one
night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer,
to quiet, to kill.
It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the
stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time
when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going
to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to
you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your
side.
Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you because that is the only
treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember,
to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all
mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep
inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday
that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak
and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.”