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Truth…

“You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” 

This sentence has been haunting in my mind lately…. Why is it that honesty is such a rare trait? How difficult can it be to just be straight about what you feel or what you think. Are we so out of touch with our own feelings and emotions that we cannot provide an honest answer or honest reaction to what we face in life?  Has life become so shallow that we only react within the perimeters of our own stereotype.. too afraid of what others might think, and how they may react? Afraid of judgement and exclusion or rejection? Afraid of hurting others? But mostly afraid of our own self? Of who we might actually be?
Yet prepared to suffer the consequences created by these dishonest misconceptions. Only to create an even bigger web of self torture.
We tend to think that by avoiding the truth we avoid pain, but the opposite is what we achieve. Hence, making the truth something doubtful, because if we can’t face it in a negative situation, we sure as hell can’t believe it in the positive sense. Leaving it nowhere to be found.
After having put up protective barriers the size of the Wall of China – to safeguard my heart from pain – I realised that all they did was keep people out and make my heart a lonesome place. So much so that even the ones that tried to conquer it, lost the battle and walked away defeated by exhaustion…. After that realisation, I decided that it was going to be all or nothing, what you see is what you get, no hidden agenda, no fear, no pretending to be something I’m not. Pure and simple, ME.
I never, for one second thought that that would be an even tougher road to take. Not everybody is ready for the unplugged version. Some people hover in the comfort of ‘make-believe’….and maybe that is what I did too, for the longest time. Only to find that it doesn’t work, it’s a denial stage of what we truly feel and who we really are. We play hide and seek from our own truth by creating a ‘secure’ sense of being – pretending we’re someone we’re not…..under the cloak of – ‘who’s kidding who’ or better yet ‘I’m kidding me AND you’. We hide from personal pain and anguish in there, and tell ourselves it’s just a coping mechanism to survive, and that all we need is time. 
But it’s NOT. Time is essential yes…but time to hide from what we honestly feel is wasted time!! 

The best way to deal with what comes your way in life, whether it’s good or bad, in my humble opinion is by honestly reacting to it. Reach within your soul and feel what YOU feel. Be real and truthful about this to yourself and others and you will find that it magically uncomplicates life. It will not protect you from any negative or positive emotion, but I assure you FEELING….. really FEELING any emotion makes you come alive !!! 

 May we all dare to dive into our guts for honesty and realise that within it lies the key to self and mutual respect. 

So unplug yourself from expectations and let the truth set you free !! 




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Love….

For centuries we have been fed love story upon love story. Literature has provided us with the most fascinating examples of true love, unrequited love, tragic love, lost love, eternal love, re-united love and so many more breathtaking tales of passionate true love.

But what is love? Really…. Does it exist in real life like it does in the great novels and romantic movies?
And if so…. Then how and when can we tell it’s the REAL Mc Coy?

I have lately mainly seen love go…disappear…and exit the lives of many dear to me, including mine. Not necessarily due to the loss of it, but mainly by choice…However, does love ever ‘choose’ to leave? And if so..was it even real love ? Or just an illusion? ..Sometimes we confuse habit, our need for love or plain lust… for love…
Sometimes, as if teasing us….even love prematurely buds, blossoming shortly, only to return later on for the full bloom.

Once a sceptic….but now a born again ‘hopeless romantic’ of this day and age, I cannot and will not let myself believe that anything or anyone can stand in the way of love, of TRUE love. Hence it’s tragic yet hopeful character. Love never dissipates, when two souls that are meant to be; ‘cannot be’..love just nestles itself safely into one of our heart’s chambers….patiently awaiting the power of destiny.

Destiny being the glue that binds true love.

So why DO so many of us hide from it? Pretend true love doesn’t exist, or convince ourselves that love is not in the cards for us…that true love does not exist except in fairy tales? That “Happily Ever After” is just a script line, designed as a box office hit. What is it that terrifies so many of us about this heartwarming emotion? Yet we secretly all long for it, cherish the thought of it and hope to find it…to love and BE loved one day!

FEAR – fear of being nakedly vulnerable to a love unreciprocated….Human actions and emotions that may end up tearing up our lovestruck heart and grinding it to dust, leaving us broken and devastated as a result….

The simple truth, however, is…that the power of love is omnipotent… that there is no love without risk, there is no greatness without weakness, there is no glory without guts. In this life, there are few who dare to accept true love …few brave enough to feel it, try it and to open up their hearts to all the possible pain and anguish this attempt may bring. But NOT trying is like NOT living…

It’s ALL or NOTHING when it comes to love.

I like to think that love will find us no matter what, that destiny will work its charms to help us recognise it, and embrace it when it’s staring us in the face…..That our fear of it is unfounded and unnecessary. ….That true love brings no harm but immense joy and warmth to those of us who actually DARE!! …..

 Love  then becomes unavoidable, unregretable and unforgettable….

You can run from love, pretend you don’t see or feel it or even ignore its presence, believe me I’ve tried, but in the end there is no escaping it. Love will find YOU, every time.

So if it’s not today, it may be tomorrow or the next day….but a love that is meant to be, will be….and :
 “unless it is mad passionate extraordinary love, it is a waste of time, there are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.” (*Dream for an Insomniac)

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The Life of Riches – My friends at the Trailer park

When you find yourself suffocating in the bling-bling bubble of riches, it’s time for a breath of fresh air ! Luckily I’m one of those incredibly nosey and curious beings and so, I went to visit my friends at the trailer park. It’s absolutely blissful there, a private beach surrounding a small lake, playing areas for the kids and most of all, nature, lots of nature !! (Of all sorts yes, even the people there go for the ‘natural look’ – which means a no nonsense approach to hairy armpits and make up). They GROW with the FLOW ;-). I love it, it helps me forget about all my ‘insecurity’ issues, being surrounded by people of all shapes and sizes,who don’t give a shit, is innovating and well,…. ‘refreshing’ in a certain sense of the word…. !!

On my first visit, I met the wonderful ‘Miss Sop’ ….probably THE ‘trailerpark-babe-on-heals’ (Goodness knows how she manages parading around on those 😉 ). Her nickname derived from her attention craving pouts and smalltalk, and as you may have gathered her actual ‘look’…Once a blond ‘bombshell’, now a forty something with grey roots and wrinkles. The way she flicks her hair is ‘just right’ and only meant for some…..or maybe even for just THE one…THE (only) eligible bachelor at the trailer park. To him I’d just like to say, “thank goodness you’re only there for the summer”… I don’t think you’d survive getting fully ‘drenched’ by Miss Sop !!

Another thing that struck me, and you may think me ‘blond’ for saying so, but….some people have NOT been blessed with very much grey matter IN the head department. And believe it or not, it does not have much to do with hair colour, like we tend to joke about…I guess it’s more to do with ‘breeding’. One guy, simply redefines the word ‘dumbo’….I mean no offence, and I’m sure none will be (or is even possibly) taken on his behalf… He walks around dressed (yes, I guess it’s a miracle he’s dressed!)….in clothes that are at least 4 sizes too big for him, his head looks like an egg with black hair ..(and believe me the mental picture you just made, FITS!) he carries around his iPod (no, it’s not a Walkman, I mean it IS 2012…even at the trailer park….duhhh). If he gets the chance he’ll look for a seat nearby anyone really….to listen to whatever is playing through the earphones, whilst letting out deep and  melancholic sighs of…relief/pleasure? It may even be his way of ‘orgasming’ the sound of music !! Who can say…..!! All I can say is…..it’s the most terrifying habit I have seen anyone have. It makes you wonder whether this guy is really mentally challenged or a pervert in disguise. I hope the first, even for him.

After spending the day gawking at these ‘new’ and fascinating bunch of people, I went home and realised the bling-bling bubble is not that different a place, (we too have Miss Sops, Mr. Creepies and the way we try to go against the natural flow of nature is so exceptionally frantic that it makes us look just as bizar, if not worse) except we DO have brain matter therefore we SHOULD know better than to behave the way we often do…..or maybe ignorance is (really) bliss…..at all levels.