Watched an interview today with Joshua Radin, my newfound favourite musical artist, he was lovely, even though that may not feel like a compliment to a man, but he was. Something he said struck me. He referred to his best friend and said, that they often joked around saying it would be great to both be gay, as they always have such fun, and laugh so much together as a pair, whereas, it seems hard to find a girl nowadays that makes him laugh.
Thing is, he’s right…we sometimes seem to forget that there is a ‘smile’ function to our ‘facial-grimace-option-board which makes us so much more attractive a person !!!
I attended a beautiful wedding this past weekend, and once again met up with estranged family members, whom I had not spoken to since my separation. Every single one of them made an effort to come talk to me and to ask me how I was doing. Very kind and heartfelt indeed. It has been 4 years now and the worst part is over as far as I’m concerned, of course some things remain painful (like seeing your children on the laps of the ex husband and girlfriend on the front row seats witnessing a family wedding ceremony, that I was a part of for nearly 20 years, whilst standing somewhere in the crowd now….wondering how it happened that I became so easily ‘replaceable’ …) but a strangers’ kind words can be soothing, and I am thankful once again for being comforted by such a loving soul at exactly the right moment !!!
Having reassured everyone of how well I am doing, with a big smile on my face, one person said to me, ‘….and after all this pain, you can still speak with a smile on your face’. Yes, I can, for there comes a point that you decide you want your life to become important again and worthwhile. Of course a lot of dreams disappeared or became impossible (for now), but so many other dreams and possibilities have taken over. New challenges and adventures galore.
Life did not end for me, it is just a new beginning !
Smiling does not mean there is no pain, it just helps us find the positives life has to offer. It helps us see the world through hopeful eyes. You never know what disaster may strike next so our time here should best be enjoyed and cherished !
A good friend of mine recently received devastating news. She has cancer. Tears of desperation have been shed and her whole world including her family’s has been turned upside down, but I know that she will be fine, because she has determination, and a hopeful spirit, and oh boy can she still make great jokes, and crack us up !!!
I greatly admire her, for her courage and life loving spirit. I look forward to celebrating with her next year that she too will have survived her trials and tribulations, smiling, even through the tears !!!
So a message to women (and men) all over, keep smiling, for it will attract a great many a friend into your hearts. The world just looks and feels better when you elude in happiness and smiles !!! =)
PS. May you all please support Pink Ribbon, and help many many women keep their smiles !!! =)